Bright Eyes: The Happiness Beauty Hack
After a long holiday weekend, I often come back looking less rested than when I left. These days I have one metric when I look at myself in the mirror. I easily forgive a crease or blemish. I’ve stopped looking for reasons to not like what I see. I look myself in the eye and look for the light. I can generally find it, even if I’ve spent a weekend on a less sleep, more wine regimen.
Have you looked at yourself in the eye lately? It’s a little weird to do. But try it. See what it feels like. Do you unnerve yourself? Do you want to blink? It’s a telling and uncomfortable truth when you want to avert your eyes from yourself. Can you get over the awkwardness and hold your own gaze?
When you reveal something honest, share a deep experience or fall in love, you look into the eyes of another. But eye contact with yourself is really rare. I’ll bet you, if you take the time to look, you’ll see more than you realized was there. Things you’ll like and delight you. Things that might feel less delightful. It’s a little like when someone asks if you’re okay unexpectedly. Being taken off-guard sometimes brings to the surface surprising emotions.
WHAT DO YOU SEE?
I’m not talking about gazing at your reflection like Narcissus. This isn’t a superficial exercise at all. This isn’t about being critical of your so-called flaws. This isn’t about taking a hard look at yourself. If anything, it’s about taking a good look at yourself, an interested look at yourself, a curious look at yourself. I’m not suggesting that you will find hidden secrets or depth. I’m just saying tune in. We deserve to be interested in our own well-being. We deserve to look ourselves in the eye. So many of us spend so much time connecting with others because our jobs require us to pitch, sell, manage up or down. Or because we’re women who want to be great friends, family members and partners. We give others the respect of looking them in the eye daily. We connect to others daily, but how often do we connect to ourselves?
Looking in the mirror is less of an act of vanity now, more of a personal check in.
I can size myself up instantly. I used to look at my reflection with a question, how do I look today? Now I zero in. How do I feel today? I don’t hide from myself anymore. I feel good. Consistently good. I have ups and downs in my life, in the evolution of the Get Go, but I’ve got a steady light on.
The best beauty secret is happiness. There’s no faking it. But we all know that happiness is both effortless and hard at the same time. The pursuit of happiness is lifelong with ebbs and flows.
But that light. That twinkle. That’s attainable on a daily basis. It’s just a matter of taking care of yourself. Bright eyes are always a good night’s sleep, a few glasses of water and a couple skin and beauty steps away. It’s such a simple act of self-care. Looking into the eyes of someone you care about is how we should all wake up in the morning.
Follow this cheat sheet and I think you’ll like what you see…
BRIGHT EYES CHEAT SHEET
Tula Revitalizing Eye Cream An eye cream for day, unlike one for night, should awaken the skin right away, create a moisture barrier and act as a primer for concealer. I was so excited for my daily morning hit of eye caffeine (this probiotic based serum contains caffeine to help depuff), I pumped with too much gusto and broke the dispenser. It’s one of the best eye creams I have ever used. A few smooth passes under and around your eyes with the cool metal applicator helps with lympathic drainage to depuff. It also contains a Chinese medicinal herb, He Huan Ma, that’s said to reduce droop around the eye area and Julibrissian extract to diminish dark circles.
Nars Radiant Creamy Concealer I’ve tried so many. But for me, this is the one. It’s not cakey. I hate a concealer that feels too heavy. This has a great creamy texture for buildable coverage. Light-diffusing technology helps with brightness. Comes in an array of skin tones.
Technique I Swear By: Triangle of Light
- Let day cream set in.
- Draw concealer from inner eye across to just past outer eye, then drag down on diagonal to corner of your nose, then pull up to inner corner again. This creates a triangle of concealer that you can lightly fill in, depending on your preferred coverage.
- Blend, using fingertips or beauty blender. Press the concealer so it gently buffs into the skin around it. Press and tap, no swiping.
- Why it works: You’re not creating raccoon eyes by focusing just on the undereye. It creates an illusion of plumped up skin and has a lifting effect.